We just defined Word Salad; the bizarre confusing but -- at first -- normal sounding bloviating of cyberpaths. Schizophasia
Any of you who have read our site know that Cyberpaths (either through learning it or just trial & error) use NLP and Trance/ Hypnotic techniques to lure, ensnare and manipulate victims as well as keep them from "blowing the whistle."
(Gareth Used to actually boast he used Word Salad, as well as NLP to manipulate others. Gareth's "hero" Derren Brown is known to practice the Confusion Technique a lot - I remember Gareth speaking and trying to explain how Derren applies and achieves this process - I was THAT manipulated and THAT brain washed I couldn't see that Gareth was doing this to me!
Word Salad is a part of what is called the CONFUSION TECHNIQUE in hypnotic application. Milton Erickson first identified and explained this technique. Here's some of the identification:
Confusion techniques are based on the following assumptions:
1. There are many automatic and predictable patterns in a person’s behavioral processes, such as the handshake;
2. Disruption of any of these patterns creates a state of uncertainty dominated by undifferentiated arousal (e.g. confusion);
3. Most people strongly dislike the state of uncertainty, and are hence extremely motivated to avoid them;
4. The arousal will increase unless the person can attribute it to something (“this happened because …”);
5. As uncertainty increases, so does the motivation to reduce it;
6. The person who is highly uncertain will typically accept the first viable way by which the uncertainty can be reduced (e.g. suggestions to drop into hypnosis).
This is part of the "KEEPING YOUR VICTIM OFF-BALANCE" part we wrote about in our article
Gareth's Word Salad - Example - A Letter
After each line of the letter I will post the translation to what he is saying in the way the translation was given to me in the beginning of my road to understanding the narcissist. I thank the friend who gave me this translation because at the same time as being correct it was humorous too which made it easier to accept the truths.
Translation In Bold
"I have worked out what I love about you and why, BECAUSE WHAT I THINK IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHAT YOU THINK
I love what I cannot see, i love that intangible quality you hold, HERE COMES MY PROJECTION
that "thing" OBJECT -'THING' BEING THE MOST OPERATIVE WORD HERE
that you are and always have been. YOU'VE ALWAYS BEEN A THING TO ME.
That is what tantalizes me, delights all of my senses and creates a certain emotional admiration of you" HERE COMES SOME IDEALISATION...GET READY FOR THE DEVALUATION SOON TO FOLLOW.
"It explains that when I hold you there is no need for words or conversation, they limit and distort the "Pure You" inside. I CAN'T COMMUNICATE.
"You walk into a room , you are 100%, I walk into the room with you , you look at me and try to tell me how you are feeling but you fail, NOTE YOU FAIL..NOT ME...YOU FAIL
you fail because there is a set of words, a dictionary, you have been taught, YOU KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE AND I AM JEALOUS OF YOU FOR THAT.
you cant make up your own words as I wont understand them, I REFUSE TO LISTEN.
everything you say to me will be degraded BANG! HERE'S ANOTHER TRUTH.
down to 70% because all i would of received was a few words and i can only understand 30% of what you wanted me to understand COS i DON'T GET IT.
The personality you have is something that is nothing but an interpreter for YOU PROJECTION AGAIN. I ASSUME YOU ARE WEARING A MASK, JUST LIKE I HAVE TO.
Nothing you say can constitute me loving you I STILL DON'T GET IT. I WILL HAVE MY WAY OR ELSE..
Whatever spirit man is inside me, WOOOO-oooo- NOW I AM BEING DEEP
hes happy when im with you, and longs for you when im without you, hes not writing this letter, i am but i can feel he is glad i am writing this. HELLO, SEE A LITTLE 'PERSONALITY SPLIT' HERE?
when something is wrong with you or me, or your doing something bad or wrong, NOTICE I NEVER TOLD YOU THAT YOU DID ANYTHING GOOD, FEEL GUILTY YET? YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO.
its like the real you....that spirit , MY PROJECTION AGAIN.
shouts to me and begs my attention MORE PROJECTION, IT'S YOUR ATTENTION MY LITTLE TEENSY WEENSY SPIRIT MAN WANTS...
saying "help" or "shes in trouble again" and in response, I WANT YOU TO BE IN DISTRESS SO I CAN BE A HERO AND SAVE A DAMSEL..HELPS ME FEEL ALL BIG AND STRONG
my spirit or soul makes the physical me feel different usually a dwelling pain in my stomach, YOU GIVE ME A PAIN IN THE GUT..
which then sparks me to physically take action and find out whats going on. IT'S YOUR FAULT I STALK YOU.
I cannot say all my love for you is because I love you, I DON'T LOVE YOU.
or your personality and the things you say and do. Its not. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO LOVE.
I love whats inside you, behind all those feelings and words. I LOVE WHAT I WANT YOU TO BE, NOT WHO YOU ARE.
It is like there is something inside us both, IT'S BEYOND MY CONTROL, COS I DON'T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYTHING.
and both spirits inside us are connected and are "in love" WE ARE JUST GOD'S LITTLE GLOVE PUPPETS (PROJECTION AGAIN)
and we as people have to just follow those instincts , I WANT TO BONK YOU.
not ever knowing if its just looks, words, sex or personality that we love about each other. I DON'T WANT TO GET TO KNOW YOU ON ANY OTHER DEEPER LEVEL.
The emotions i feel overwhelm me when we are together, I HAVE POOR IMPULSE CONTROL
and your personality you have taken on I'M SAYING THAT YOUR PERSONALITY IS FAKE(PROJECTION AGAIN)
is a mere tunnel to the real spirit and vibe of you, the soul or aura you have drives me wild when i think about you. I WANT TO BONK YOU.
You are insecure about us XXXXXXX, there is no need to be, DON'T FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION.
wake in the morning and go to sleep at night and what happens in the daytime happens, but there is something inside both of us that will always want to get closer so leave it alone, I WILL BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR FEELINGS
dont worry or feel the need to govern the relationship. IT'S MY JOB TO GOVERN THE RELATIONSHIP
Say what you feel instinctively and we will naturally get along well. DO AS I SAY.
I love the spirit and soul that is in you I feel it when im with you and around you, when I cuddle up to you or lie down with you. I WANT TO BONK YOU.
It is hard for me to comprehend what im saying but when im lying I'M ALWAYS LYING
against you its like there is something inside me THERE'S SOMETHING INSIDE MY PANTS
thats happy and that something is what i am talking about. I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT.
I dont know if you understand what im saying, and if you cant then it furthur supports what im saying. I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL I AM SAYING AND IF YOU UNDERSTAND ANY OF THIS THEN YOU ARE AS NUTS AS I AM...
Let us look forward we are in love much deeper than i can ever comprehend, THIS IS WORD SALADY RUBBISH WHERE I TRY TO BE DEEP AND MEANINGFUL
whatever is inside me will guide me and clear the way. MY PENIS LEADS THE WAY.
in time you will start to see the white before the black....the positive instead of the negative. I SPEAK OF BLACK AND WHITE, THERE'S AN INDICATOR THAT THERE'S NO SHADES OF GREY, PRETTY MUCH THE WAY A PSYCHOPATH/NARCISSIST VIEWS THE WORLD.
The medium of talking is poor. I CAN'T COMMUNICATE..
Your skin like silk, your body is beautiful, your eyes so perfectly dark and deep, your hair so vibrant and attractive, your lips so lush and striking. I WANT TO BONK YOU. HERE'S ANOTHER BUNCH OF COMPLIMENTS TO IDEALISE YOU AGAIN BEFORE A D&D. DEVALUE + DISCARD
Your make up you wear masks OOOH NOTICE THE "Psychopath" SPEAK..."MASK"
your natural beauty and can instill lust and physical desire but still does not answer the question of what and why do i love you. HERE I GO AGAIN....
So Let love thrive and enjoy the warmth it gives you. DO AS I SAY.
Allay your worries and fears as there is no need for any. I FLUNKED ENGLISH CLASS.
All my love ...is just for you FOR NOW.
Hope it helps a lot to know im always going to be here for you...... THAT I WILL ALWAYS STALK YOU.
Ineffable = unspeakable I DON'T KNOW HOW TO USE A DICTIONARY EITHER
Ecstasy = Overwhelming emotion OR A THESAURUS
Intangible= Can be sensed but not physical BUT I CAN ALWAYS TRY SPELL CHECK
"Im not saying your stupid XXXXXX" I AM SAYING YOU'RE STUPID BUT REMEMBER, THAT'S MY PROJECTION.
As a partner of a narcissist you will more than likely find yourself trying to read between the lines of his correspondence, because he isn't being CLEAR , everything he says is twisted, warped and gobbledegook. It is meaningless word jumbles, word salad tossed together.
Better to just toss the psychopath out on his ass into the gutter, because if you don't that's exactly how what he will do to you and a lot worse.
"I have all the characteristics of a human being: flesh, blood, skin , hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip"
Gareth Edward(s) Rodger
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