Is Gareth Really A Psychopath? ......You Bet He Is. Read & Understand.

If any of you are still questioning whether your cyberpath/psychopath is a narcissistic type? Read the below.


If anyone who knows Gareth Rodger is questioning his pathology, talk to him, read and understand the following, Dig a little deeper into how a pathological person thinks and behaves, then apply your knowledge the next time you spend time with him.


To be honest you only have to read the posts and emails from Gareth showing him rejecting his children, Refusing to go to our 2nd daughter's funeral & going on holiday (to the caribbean + forcing me to put the funeral forward) a few weeks after our 1st daughter died to see WHAT he is. You can find those emails and pictures here and here


For those of you who are seeking understanding of psychopathy, Hervey Cleckley's book The Mask of Sanity, the absolutely essential study of the psychopath who is not necessarily of the criminal type , Please download - The Mask Of Sanity PDF

Narcissistic Traits Discussed - Checklist


Hare's Checklist




As someone once put it to me:


"First of all, you know this guy is a real sicko. (Gareth) Seriously, he is creepy enough to be in a Halloween movie so you know anything that comes from him is not going to be good. Because of his pathology, he does not think he has done anything wrong. In his mind, he has put all the blame on you and sees your blog and exposure of him as unjust. Just remember, XXXXXX, they are ALL this way. As EOPC reminds us--every last one of them is exactly the same!! So you are not experiencing anything out of the ordinary when it comes to these psychopaths."




All sociopaths wear a mask. The mask of kindness. The mask of generosity. The mask of romance. The mask of attraction. The mask of intimacy. The mask of seduction. And so on.

This is what reels us in. The pretense. The acting. The mask. The mask of perfection. And we, in our infinite loving goodness, reflect that mask back to them. The perfect mirrored reflection of beauty and adoration.

And then one day, that mask cracks. You remember the moment.. The moment when you look in their eyes and you KNOW the truth about them. The moment you recognize the pathological lies, the deception, the manipulation, the con. The game is up Source





REMEMBER: THEY ONLY NEED TO HAVE A COUPLE OF THESE TRAITS TO SUFFER FROM SOME DEGREE OF PATHOLOGY (i.e. narcissism --->sociopathy)



Article EOPC


Recognizing the fact that you have been involved with someone who is affected by NPD, is surely the first step of dealing with the issue.


However, before someone might be classified as being narcissistic, it is important to keep in mind that, like every psychological disorder, narcissistic personality disorder too, comes in various degrees. Going to the extreme, we might argue that each of us has somewhere a narcissist in her/himself. It even could be said that a healthy narcissistic tendency is important for survival.


However, in the same context it must be emphasized that, while a narcissistic tendency is constructive, a fully elaborated or developed
symptomatic of NPD is nothing but destructive!


Psychologically there are several criteria which have been applied to this personality disorder. These are:

* The narcissist can not take perspective, hence situations are blown out of proportion

* The narcissist has little or no empathy. This means that (s)he cannot identify with the feelings or thoughts of another person

* The narcissist is preoccupied with her/ his personal distress

* The narcissist cannot accept authority and hence has little concern for morals

* The narcissist feels easily inferior and will try to be seen as superior

* The narcissist is narcissistic hypersensitive, and hence cannot accept any form of critique

* The narcissist is an exhibitionist and needs sexual admiration

* The narcissist is exploitative, vain and not self-sufficient



So the question is whether the man or the woman you are living with are so strongly affected by this disorder that you will have to seriously confront the issue or whether the condition is mild and maybe after some adaptations it is possible to agree on a harmonious life together. However, this will focus on the first scenario where the disorder poses a serious threat to the relationship as well as to your existence.


There is much one can read about the symptoms of NPD and yet exactly this can be more than confusing, and you might find yourself going through a checklist of symptoms in order to arrive at some conclusion. However, the list above should give you some idea. Still, there is another element which is just as important and this quite possibly the most important item for you to look at:

Look at yourself and ask yourself how you feel and whether you are the person you once were and knew. If you live with a narcissist, you will develop a cluster of negative feelings centered around the emotion of fear and an image of inadequacy.

This self image of being inadequate then will be due to a change in self perception. This is, it is a cognitive concept that you are not familiar with and which is in contrast to how you used to see yourself. Clearly, such a negative self image will have serious effects on the way you feel and behave.

The dominant feeling is, as alluded to, fear. Fear of doing things wrong and fear of being punished. And thus, the way you behave too will become modified whereby you will watch your every move and where your actions become unnatural to yourself.

The issue is - in a sense - more complicated. Because, all of us have negative feelings and concepts about ourselves even if we never encountered a narcissist. So in this sense, what the narcissist does is to build on the already existing negative self images and enlarge them to a maximum.

The situation is even worse because we are aware of short comings in ourselves. This is where the narcissist is most successful. The narcissist will endeavour to increase these short comings. I may give a personal example: once, I gave up smoking, the narcissist exercised so much pressure on me until I started again (I still smoke sometimes).

The narcissist would really like to see you in the gutter.

However, if you see that you have substantially changed for the worse you can be sure that you are living with a narcissist, and a check list is not necessary any longer.

Still, there is a healing aspect to sharing what actions you suffered and what injustice and cruelty you have been exposed to, and hence sharing experiences and finding reassurance through others can be very important. This is the more the case as, while you are still living with the narcissist or are still in contact with the narcissist, the negative self image gets constantly reinforced.

If you feel that the self check and the characteristics of the narcissist as given above are not sufficient you might want to check your relationship for symptoms of the following kind as given by the check list below. Still, while you are comparing your own experiences with the check list provided here, it is important to remember that maybe only some of these symptoms apply to you or that symptoms which apply to you are not listed. The final criterion will always remain the way you feel about yourself and your self image.





Here now a list of possible symptoms a narcissist might display (not complete or final!):

* Disallowance of your contacts with friends and families
* Extreme jealousy
* Belittling
* Verbal and physical violence
* Punishments
* Sudden withdrawal or disinterest
* Inability to admit wrong doings
* Control over your time
* Threats and intimations (particularly when you call them out on their behaviors)
* Destruction of your things and psyche - physical and non- physical
* Claiming to know your feelings and motivations
* Accusations of infidelity
* Accusations of you behaving in ways you yourself despise