tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.comments2023-05-06T07:24:21.633-07:00Living With A Psychopath - When The Mask Slips.PNDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06007966650835440593noreply@blogger.comBlogger335125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-89568214426038736462014-03-13T12:50:43.872-07:002014-03-13T12:50:43.872-07:00If a person A is constantly belittling, criticizin...If a person A is constantly belittling, criticizing, demeaning and humiliating their partner B, how is that not the cause of anger for partner B? To say as an absolute that a person A here is not the cause of anger isn't really the truth. What happens is that a mean spirited person will read this an absolve themselves from being the cause of chaos. Person A will then say to person B, stop blaming me if you are upset for using you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-83337938090194464402014-03-09T20:51:33.208-07:002014-03-09T20:51:33.208-07:00The man who abused me was definitely one person ar...The man who abused me was definitely one person around me and a different person around others. He had many tactics some came out of the blue others more obvious. My friends were an issue as my daughter and grandson who lived with me because they took away his attention. There were double standards to what I did and what he did. I caught on and pressed charges after much denial. I made many excuses. He came pleading and begging in such away that I thought he had changed. I should have got out then. He was shocked he was busted and wanted to know who I had been talking to. Abusers dont like people knowing how they treat you. He was extreamly controlling a manipulator and a liar. So much it kept me in chaos. I was blamed, guilty, and mocked for even my feelings of hurt. I was shut down andtaught not to have a voice. He cut me down in every way possible. When I finally got out I was so depressed and filled with anxiety from trying to appease him. He was never happy and I couldnt do enough. I must be available and able to fix all his problems. He had many excuses and justifications for his disrespect. My setting boundaries was an issue. I raised my value and he was so frustrated. At first it was he would do anything not to loose me but then would come I was nothing he ever wanted. The dr.jeckle and Hyde was obvious more once I stepped back to evaluate what was going on. You know they treat you bad get upset pull away and here comes whatever it takes to pull you back in. He would show up unannounced or call my daughter. He almost had her convinced I was delusional. Well in the end he got so upset I was standing firm he turned everything around on me and said he acted out because of me and I abused him! Not to mention the police were called during our relationship and I pressed charges hoping it would help. He was just in denial twisting therapy onto me. I paid a price for he used it against me and after meeting he would call to say this is what you do and be careful what you wish for. I was told I humiliated him when I would simply try to have a normal conversation that would turn into his chaotic crazymaking. Anyways weeks after he left me alone on his terms... He made it a point to bring a new girl to this restaurant we went to where my daughters friend works so it would get back to me of course. Then he makes it a point to poke at some pictures on a social network of mine I totally ignored it. Within this time (5months) he is married claiming good is great and she is amazing but making it a point to throw it in my face... I am just not rebuilding the damage in my life and rebuilding because I put my life on hold for him. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-43475941711674177532014-03-04T14:36:14.450-08:002014-03-04T14:36:14.450-08:00Why do all people believe that psychopaths are nec...Why do all people believe that psychopaths are necessarily evil? <br />While I cannot deny the fact that it is likely that the majority of them are probably up to no good, it is by no means true for all of them. No one is born with psychopathy. <br />It is acquired.<br /><br />Have you ever wondered why those people became the way they are now? Have you ever tried to look beyond their fake selves? Some of them might be probably beyond salvation, but others still have some sanity left and therefore could return to lead a normal life.<br /><br />Because psychopaths are naturally regarded as "Evil" there is no one to help them. Thus it leads to a never-ending cycle of losing more and more of their humanity. <br /><br />Of course, this is a task only for those who are strong in their mind. Strong enough to face the psychopath's true self on an even level. Weak-willed people will only get devoured.<br /><br />Even if psychopaths are not regarded as "human", it cannot be denied that they were human once.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-4910652867783103912014-03-02T04:11:58.590-08:002014-03-02T04:11:58.590-08:00I've just re-read your blog about narcissistic...I've just re-read your blog about narcissistic mothers. Judging by the comments of visitors to your site, you've described something that affects a lot of people. Your description of the psychopathic mother fits my own mum. I think my father had Asperger Syndrome, although he died before anybody had heard of that. He meant no harm, but lack of empathy for his daughters meant he didn't stop my mother from hurting us. My sisters are badly damaged, and my whole family is still a danger zone twenty years after mum died: even my relationship with my own son and grandchildren is uneasy. The only stratagem I know for dealing with psychopaths is to run away, and wait for them to die. The ones you can't run from, you must live with as blandly as possible, offering no emotional Velcro. And try to be kind to others, in spite of your own pain. Thank you for bringing this into the open so clearly. It helps to know I'm not alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-66339849224347155462014-02-22T13:58:41.376-08:002014-02-22T13:58:41.376-08:00How do I deal with it when I im trapped living wit...How do I deal with it when I im trapped living with that person with no other options. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-19337651060726759182014-02-18T22:00:29.229-08:002014-02-18T22:00:29.229-08:00I'm sorry for what you had to experience, its ...I'm sorry for what you had to experience, its horrifying and yet the police actually do abuse their authority I've experienced it and not a officer but have had a woman manipulate the legal system including police , advocates, me esp when they never investigated nothing, her false allegations, accusations, ruined a lawsuit, ruined me, and the police refused to let me file real actually charges against her,, she abused me & have photos but since I'm a man I made excuses for her and her rage , temper, attitude, its really sad and disheartening to say & take an oath to protect & serve only if it were true Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-37483519742080915962014-02-18T06:15:01.824-08:002014-02-18T06:15:01.824-08:00You just described the last thirty two years of my...You just described the last thirty two years of my life. The gleeful smirk is one of the most disturbing things I've ever seen...only appeared when I was suffering and the affairs I found out about at fifty two years old. This man made himself out to be the most honorable of men and constantly accused me of infidelity. He met an American woman caked in thick makeup who has had many affairs herself her initials are K C and she is on facebook. Her husband is very rich and we've always been quite poor and when I asked my husband about how his still dependent children would live he laughed in my face. When this woman phoned my home and I reacted emotionally I heard her laughing..how can a woman treat another woman and children like that? Ah well...I've learned a lot, painful as it was and all I want now is to love my good children because they need the love and they'll thrive on it. If I had known what I know now I would have taken my children away when they were small instead of being reared in that toxic madness...please god I can put it right. Thank you for this article and blessings on all the others who experience this hard path.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-12924973592535436932014-02-07T10:22:35.294-08:002014-02-07T10:22:35.294-08:00I believe all but the reputation one stand.
The ...I believe all but the reputation one stand. <br /><br />The reputation one is a give or take, a catch 22. I had been in an abusive relationship prior, and that abuser spun stories after isolating me severely to my 'friends' (whom I found out the hard way were not good friends at all) -- hence I also had a bad reputation but was engaged actively with healthy boundaries, healing from past abuse through counseling, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-74015673531750459852014-01-29T15:45:32.160-08:002014-01-29T15:45:32.160-08:00I thought I was going through this alone - my part...I thought I was going through this alone - my partner checks 90+ of the flags. I have had 13 years of it and cant take much more. This is very helpful to know that it is not me and to have my suspicions confirmed. I now know there will be no respite or recovery while I stay with him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-30490917101711855092014-01-29T15:40:08.496-08:002014-01-29T15:40:08.496-08:00I thought I was the only one living with this madn...I thought I was the only one living with this madness. My partner checks about ninety of these points and is behaving very badly now. You know you can't confront them because then it gets worse. I have had 13 years of it and can't take much more. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-43413562337404818052014-01-19T22:18:35.913-08:002014-01-19T22:18:35.913-08:00Great info! So I AM living with a psychopath,great...Great info! So I AM living with a psychopath,great!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-9850937868705119422014-01-17T12:29:55.553-08:002014-01-17T12:29:55.553-08:00My husband has so many of these flags. We went ban...My husband has so many of these flags. We went bankrupt today, a situation made worse through decisions he made completely against my wishes etc and already he has accused me of setting him up and wanting him to go to prison, so I can be without him. I have two kids who can see what he is like, but I hate to hurt them with all of this. I feel so trapped. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-22672396388784067092014-01-10T23:10:21.244-08:002014-01-10T23:10:21.244-08:00I am so much of what this article says. Reading al...I am so much of what this article says. Reading all these responses breaks my heart. Please pray I free of this spirit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-9794838952975569922014-01-06T16:39:35.179-08:002014-01-06T16:39:35.179-08:00I believe most of what you are describing here is ...I believe most of what you are describing here is considered a sociopath or sadist. From what I understand narcissists are extremely self centered but they can develop empathy and don't usually make a point to hurt others, physically, psychologically, emotionally or otherwise. Sociopaths will never have empathy. It's like a missing link in the brain. They learn social clues as to appropriate ways of interacting but their main drive is to manipulate and hurt others. Most sociopaths are not dangerous as in violent but all of them are emotionally and psychologically abusive. They see all people they come across as a peg on a game board to be used and exploited for their own gain or just to watch a person squim and then lose it. Sociopaths have narcissistic tendencies but not all narcissists are sociopaths. Make sense?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03597554947058135471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-48385686105352572052013-12-16T15:54:51.884-08:002013-12-16T15:54:51.884-08:00Hi there
I have just read this article & I fe...Hi there<br /><br />I have just read this article & I feel very sad.<br />I am undergoing psychotherapy at the moment to help me move forward from a volatile relationship with my mother.<br />I found out in 2010 that my mother was a psychopath.<br />I always knew there was something, but wasn't sure exactly what it was, I just thought it was me.<br />My mother destroyed my first marriage, then destroyed my relationship with my children. She also tried to ruin my second marriage but this is when I learnt the horrible truth as my second husband saw right through her.<br />I ended up in a psychiatric hospital as I couldn't cope with my emotions.<br />My mum died in 2011 of lung cancer. She even told me tat that was my fault.<br />My extended family don't speak to me any more and neither do my adult children, my daughter won't even let me see my grandchild.<br />I am 40 years old and feel a Compleate failure.<br />I was told I was the wrong sex, that nobody would ever want me, that I would amount to nothing, I always ad a problem, I made things up, I had a vivid imagination & so on.<br />Is anybody else having difficulties in coming to terms with what has happened to them? <br />I just feel like one big jokeAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02306979819932746922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-15999071806586527972013-12-13T07:38:03.634-08:002013-12-13T07:38:03.634-08:00This is my mother and that is what my life with he...This is my mother and that is what my life with her has been. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-72692938950418615802013-11-07T01:46:55.605-08:002013-11-07T01:46:55.605-08:00I dated a narcissist for 3 months. I ignored the r...I dated a narcissist for 3 months. I ignored the red flags to start. When we fought it was because I wanted to express my feelings in a positive way. Every time I did that he would stonewall me. He used nasty words too to try and hurt me. I eventually sent him a text message which he ignored. (my text was nicer than your letter). I texted him the next day and all I got back was <br /><br />"we are done. I send you the money for the watch. Don't contact me again".<br /><br />(I had bought him a watch for his Birthday. This was a guy that said he loved me...but it was all fake). I was shell shocked but after doing research, it led me to understanding he was a narcissist. I now see all the red flags and I won't EVER date one again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-78058211433719165812013-11-06T09:49:19.634-08:002013-11-06T09:49:19.634-08:00Let me start by saying my heart breaks for everyon...Let me start by saying my heart breaks for everyone here. Myself included. I prey that someday society will put a spotlight on this disorder and deal with it. I am 47 and have lost my daughter to my mothers manipulation. I have fought depresion and alcoholism because of her abuse and out of a large loving greek family, not one person has sided with me. I have been labeled the difficult one. I only hope someday, that I live long enough to enjoy a life without her in it. That I have peace. If you are seeing these behaviors in your mother, get away. Far away. Dont look back. Trust me, my life would have been so much better. Dont wait till your aproaching 50 to wake up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-54848471286106402372013-10-12T20:35:45.345-07:002013-10-12T20:35:45.345-07:00Your wrong. NPD affects males and females about e...Your wrong. NPD affects males and females about evenly. There is just a sexist bias to the victimization of females in our society. It actually seems to me that there are far more toxic women than men. Men likely become more detached due to women in the US.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-7660837265193316182013-09-27T04:58:13.752-07:002013-09-27T04:58:13.752-07:00Thank you for posting this. I'm afraid that I ...Thank you for posting this. I'm afraid that I might become a psychopath. I'm already exhibiting a few of these outbursts (but not physically) and I fear that one day I'll have my boyfriend running. I want to have counselling but I'm too embarassed to do so. Tips?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-67921110677637753942013-09-17T09:43:06.476-07:002013-09-17T09:43:06.476-07:00I'm in a situation where it's my new husba...I'm in a situation where it's my new husband's ex wife who has the traits and unfortunately still has a hold on us, but not for long. Her alimony is almost paid up and her children are grown adults. She has literally sucked out and destroyed so many lives because of her selfishness and extreme jealousy over her ex husband's ability to forget her and move on with his life despite all of her tactics. It's disgusting that she still feels righteous even though she caused the divorce in the first place by committing adultery and justifies it with ridiculous reasoning, lies and manipulation of those she still feeds from (her adult children) to gain affirmation despite how much she hurts them by doing this. Though I am not looking forward to the expected firework display when that last payment is made, it will be satisfying to see how God will be avenging this situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-84317735673648154192013-09-11T04:11:11.544-07:002013-09-11T04:11:11.544-07:00I.will start a blog about different ways i m deali...I.will start a blog about different ways i m dealing withremaining whole through meeting the psycopath i ve known for about six months. If i may i will stay connected with your support. It will be refreshing and encouraging. To share this great feat with you all. This morning i just cut off the sex . Lets see where this goes in real time. Thank you all so very very much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14198159220651796653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-27064828866344682862013-09-03T21:13:33.241-07:002013-09-03T21:13:33.241-07:00Fantastic!Fantastic!Irvinhttp://themeatgrinders.info/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-84967699859064969282013-08-26T04:14:10.644-07:002013-08-26T04:14:10.644-07:00Im living with a psychopath! Im living with a psychopath! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-87708015634170084632013-08-23T23:37:57.623-07:002013-08-23T23:37:57.623-07:00I will keep it in mind, thanks for sharing the inf...I will keep it in mind, thanks for sharing the information. Keep updating, looking forward for more posts. Thanks. <br /><a href="http://www.yakupavsar.com/" rel="nofollow">Estetik</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15043344387601838721noreply@blogger.com