tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post8198772559038256191..comments2023-05-06T07:24:21.633-07:00Comments on Living With A Psychopath - When The Mask Slips.: He Loves Me , He Loves Me Not?PNDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06007966650835440593noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-37483519742080915962014-02-18T06:15:01.824-08:002014-02-18T06:15:01.824-08:00You just described the last thirty two years of my...You just described the last thirty two years of my life. The gleeful smirk is one of the most disturbing things I've ever seen...only appeared when I was suffering and the affairs I found out about at fifty two years old. This man made himself out to be the most honorable of men and constantly accused me of infidelity. He met an American woman caked in thick makeup who has had many affairs herself her initials are K C and she is on facebook. Her husband is very rich and we've always been quite poor and when I asked my husband about how his still dependent children would live he laughed in my face. When this woman phoned my home and I reacted emotionally I heard her laughing..how can a woman treat another woman and children like that? Ah well...I've learned a lot, painful as it was and all I want now is to love my good children because they need the love and they'll thrive on it. If I had known what I know now I would have taken my children away when they were small instead of being reared in that toxic madness...please god I can put it right. Thank you for this article and blessings on all the others who experience this hard path.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-14800395109968134002009-04-03T05:57:00.000-07:002009-04-03T05:57:00.000-07:00your blog is good good good......<B>your blog is good good good......</B>♥♥♥♥♥ Jennifer™® ♥♥♥♥♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/15369583052701337325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-29388923543868085002009-02-24T23:13:00.000-08:002009-02-24T23:13:00.000-08:00I am so pleased for you that you are now able to l...I am so pleased for you that you are now able to live life free from the abuser. <BR/><BR/>I paid prices too with my children and almost lost them for good. <BR/><BR/>There is something about the psychopath, he seems to envelop you until (and I know this sounds bad) you can only see him. My children were ignored for months on end as i was only interested in helping, appeasing, & pleasing him. <BR/><BR/>I will always regret that, but I am making up for it by spending all my time with my girls. <BR/><BR/>I hope you do feel proud of yourself for getting out, and the achievements you have made so far, 5 years is a very long time (always is when its with the psychopath - one day can seem like a lifetime) - but now you know what he really is, you wont go back! <BR/><BR/>2 years no contact is great! and if you ever meet a psychopath again, either at the supermarket, or a social event, your instincts will scream out again, and that is a good thing, because of everything you went through and the ongoing healing you can spot one a mile away. <BR/><BR/>I pray you continue to find happiness in everyday life and healing.PNDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06007966650835440593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-21432776912769417582009-02-24T16:00:00.000-08:002009-02-24T16:00:00.000-08:00I have to correct my spelling. "I gave up everyth...I have to correct my spelling. "I gave up everything, not us everything and "I thought it was incredible love", not "I love it was incredible love".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-31490495145495054952009-02-24T03:26:00.000-08:002009-02-24T03:26:00.000-08:00Dear PND,I'm off to work, but wanted to say once a...Dear PND,<BR/><BR/>I'm off to work, but wanted to say once again, thank you for your insight and kind words. I feel you know exactly how I felt. Especially with children. I gave us everything the second time around to marry and be with him. I had so many prices to pay when it ended.<BR/><BR/>I read Woman Who Love Psycopaths when it first came out, but I'm going to read it again. It was so eye opening. There we so many red flags right from the beginning. My gut was screaming at me after a year, but I love it was incredible love. I ended up staying 5, and it took 2 years to completely stop contact. That part is fairly new, and I feel so much better!<BR/><BR/>Bless you alsoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-43345271504980218492009-02-23T14:29:00.000-08:002009-02-23T14:29:00.000-08:00Anonymous, I told the psychopath the exact same th...Anonymous, <BR/><BR/>I told the psychopath the exact same thing, there is something about them , their aura their sense of being that frightens people. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I really want to read "the betrayal bond" , "women who love psychopaths" by Sandra Brown is amazing, it's the first book about psychopaths and relationships I could relate to. <BR/><BR/>Im so sorry you had to go through that with your children, I am so glad you left for good , and having your children's trust regained is another victory for which you should be proud of yourself for. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I know the feeling, "zombie like" it's everyday and you feel like you are out of touch with reality. Everyone else is getting on with life and you can't understand why you feel so disconnected and afraid. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Keep fighting the good fight Anonymous, you have come this far, and everyday is a new day to look forward to. <BR/><BR/><BR/>& thank you so much for your kind words regarding the children, I am still working through that pain, but I do know that I will see them again some day and that comforts me some. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I think those who come out of relationships with the psychopath do become stronger for it. We change for the better. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I just wish there was more awareness about "narcissism" and "Psychopathy" in general, that way if we know what to look out for, we can avoid it. So many women are still stuck in these pathological relationships, and some feel that there is no way out. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I pray for your continued healing and please feel free to contact me if you would like to talk. <BR/><BR/>God Bless you Anonymous. <BR/><BR/>-PND<BR/><BR/><BR/>God bless.PNDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06007966650835440593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-21296499124917605642009-02-23T12:23:00.000-08:002009-02-23T12:23:00.000-08:00I also wanted to say that I am so sorry for your l...I also wanted to say that I am so sorry for your losses. The pain of losing a child must be incredible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-88961721458142971982009-02-23T12:10:00.000-08:002009-02-23T12:10:00.000-08:00Thank you for your wishes. I told him once that ...Thank you for your wishes. I told him once that I had such deep love, but yet such deep fear of him.<BR/><BR/>I learned much by reading The Gift of Fear, and just recently finished The Betrayl Bond. I had to finally look at my past and see why I did it twice. Both long term.<BR/><BR/>I lost the trust of my children which was devastating, because I kept going back. Our relationship is now stronger than ever, and I am so glad I am out. The longer I'm gone, the better it gets. I was truly a zombie when I left. I looked in the mirror and wondered where I had gone. There is no way to explain it to someone unless they have been through it.<BR/><BR/>Total devastation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-66477194735978037552009-02-23T10:09:00.000-08:002009-02-23T10:09:00.000-08:00I am a mother too and I remember the devaluation p...I am a mother too and I remember the devaluation period, it was an awful time. <BR/><BR/>That's what I was trying to get across, "women need to know they are WORTH love and respect, and that they should love themselves for who they are because there is nothing wrong with them" <BR/><BR/><BR/>I am so glad you are no longer with the narcissist. I do pray you find your happiness and more healing. <BR/><BR/>Your children will grow up to be very proud of their mother. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for your kind words anonymous. <BR/><BR/>God Bless you & your family. <BR/><BR/>-PNDPNDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06007966650835440593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-82620970795683340442009-02-23T05:00:00.000-08:002009-02-23T05:00:00.000-08:00After 7 months of no physical contact, and 3 month...After 7 months of no physical contact, and 3 months of no other type of contact, I can now see this so clearly. I lived this day in and day out. I am also a mother, and lost sight of everything for awhile, just trying to please and win his love after the mask slipped. Thank you for your story and articles. I just found your blog this weekend, and my heart ached for your story. I've learned so much about myself through this relatinship, and now seek daily to truly love and care for myself and my children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com