tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post5064551869914121503..comments2023-05-06T07:24:21.633-07:00Comments on Living With A Psychopath - When The Mask Slips.: Does He Fit The Checklist On Predators?PNDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06007966650835440593noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5950976189778332581.post-26857650272095460922009-04-26T20:28:00.000-07:002009-04-26T20:28:00.000-07:00I know someone who also fits the checklist 100%. ...I know someone who also fits the checklist 100%. In fact, I could go so far as to say 110% because he adds an item to this horrifying list. Everything you indicated being present (especially including the deep resentment of women and one having any control over him in any way - mostly imagined as he thinks that being considerate ie: telling me where he goes at all hours day and night is me trying to control him, me being demanding, although it is impossible to request a thing of him, much less demand - he does what he wants, gives what he wants (usually useless or if needed, late or lacking)....<br />Basically in this "relationship" (or aas you said more appropriately "interaction", he has all but consumed my qualities and achievements ie:<br /> I went to college to study interior design, straight A student until the last year when I had to drop out due to famliy problems - He refuses to acknowledge I am educated or talented in any way. Any decor I did to where we live he destroyed if not immedietely eventually until I refuse to do it anymore. He, now spends most of his time "remodeling" which is a nightmare, as he has no work ethic has left most projects undone to the point of embarrassmnent, has created a virtual hellish environment for me who is sensitive to that, and is constantly coming to me to brag about what his latest idea is in this department - yesterday it was that he was going to take out the shower and "rearrange" the bathroom fixtures. This because I said that the shower is a retreat for me the only place I can get some quiet and peace of mind, like a spa....<br />I apologize for the tangents, by the way, it's just completely crazy -n all of the time...<br />ANyway what I originally wanted to say was he adds to this list... He is also a transvestite fetishist - or better (in case the name is wrong, He steals my lingerie and also goes "canning" to get aluminum cans to recycle but really is digging thru peoples trash to find girls lingerie and boy does he find that and other things yo wwouldnt beleive, like sex toys and porn... I am constantly finding when I clean empty KY bottles, giant dildos, together with lingerie and always a mirror around too. He dresses like a woman and watches himself "do" himself while loking at porn. Perfect, he has figured out a way to be the woman and the man in the relationsip leaving no role for me other than "bitch", "rag", etc. Seriously I am by no means unattractive and he would rather do that than have sex with me, although I no longer, for some time want it either. It was always so quick I didnt even know it was over. He would ejaculate the second of penetration every time. He prefers to give me oral sex until I am close enough and then he ends with this one second whanny. I know this is way too much info, but I really am trying to express how deept tha resentment and need to control women runs. I have been here for five years and have planned an "escape" this coming weekend never to return. You are so right, these people, are vacuous monsters who will strip the partner of all they can and in place of their self -esteem attempt to fill them with doubt insecurities and self loathing. THere is no fixing them. RUN is the only way to escape, even if you are afraid, chances are it will be easier than you think, or not, regardless... Every refernce to these monsters should end with the word RUN, run to a better life - RUN away from this madness. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR BLOG IT HAS HELPED ME REALIZE THIS AND KNOW IT.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com